Couples Conflict Management
Cobb Anger Management Company offers Couples Conflict Management. We understand relationships get in a rut and it may cause turmoil or may even become toxic. We want to help you and your partner build healthy relationship skills by giving you certain techniques that can be used in everyday living.
Some relationships end because both individuals get to a point where communication has been broken, simple refreshment activities can sometimes be what you need to get your relationship back on track.
Typical Relationship Problems:
Constant Arguments/ Arguing
Name calling
Blame game
Communication Issues
Harsh words exchange
Lost of "fire" in relationship
Withdrawal
Understanding the Importance of Apologizing :
Apologies serve a lot of important purposes. First, they're an indication that someone isn't right all the time and they acknowledge that. Second, apologizing can make clear that you're concerned about the other individuals welfare, which is basic, but a fundamental point that needs to be made over and over in a relationship. Third, apologies can help to deescalate conflict when performed correctly.
5 Useful Tips to say " I'm Sorry" :
1. The best way to apologize is " quick and intense"; the longer you wait to apologize, the longer you prolong the conflict.
2. Don't say "Sorry" if you don't mean it. Apologies have to be real. They have to be from the heart and the person being apologized to has to feel like the person apologizing gets it.
3. It can help to show genuine interest in why the person is hurt; try asking some questions about why they feel the way they feel and what would make them feel better.
4. Take full responsibility for hurting the person's feelings, and explain what you might do differently to avoid doing the same thing in the future.
5. Sometimes, sorry isn't enough. Work on truly understanding why the person feels hurt and trying to change any harmful patterns.
Listening and Communicating
Listening and Communication is key to all relationships. One without the other make things hard for a couple to ever get on the same page and seek compromise. Understanding important communication techniques such as using "I" statements and refraining from using "YOU" statements which at times can make individuals shutdown and put up a "defense wall" and in most cases make things worst, usually are helpful in resolving conflict. Holding yourself accountable for your actions can minimize confrontation and can be a catalysis for resolving problems in a peaceful manner.
Active listening is also key when trying to seek compromise. In most arguments people are not clearly listening to "understand", they are mainly listening to "reply" and generally are only interested in getting their point across. If you build a habit for listening to understand, you will be able to identify what is bothering the other individual and will be able to assess the problem better and come to agreement at a much faster pace.
~Couples Conflict Management~
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